life is easier when you lower the bar.

Are you in a slump with your New Years Resolution to lose 50 pounds in 60 seconds? Or disappointed you’re not the pinterest woman you thought you’d be when you grew up? I’ve got some news for you… life is a lot more fun when you lower the bar.

That’s right. Lower the damn bar.

So you didn’t get 6 pack abs by your 9 month post partum goal date. You don’t have the energy to send your kids off to school with homemade muffin’s warm out of the oven. And you’re not making your own organic baby food… how dare you.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Who do we think we are?

Lower the mother f-ing bar.

I’m serious. We hear all the time people say “women are too hard on themselves” and you nod your head in agreement. But do we listen? Listen up! WOMEN ARE TOO HARD ON THEMSELVES.


This is the advice I give to people who came to my fitness class for the first time. They are intimidated, they want to leave, and they don’t know how they’re ever going to make this a habit. Confidence is at risk, no doubt.

But what you need to know is: You don’t have to do it well. You don’t have to do it every day. You don’t have to do it until it hurts. You honestly don’t even need to work that hard. You just need to keep going. Make a friend. Smile. But most importantly…


Think about it. I apply this advise to my life as a new mom all the mother f-ing time. I envisioned myself always making my own baby food from scratch #Nope. Never throwing my baby at my husband the second he walks in the door #Nope. Breastfeeding until he was 12 months old #Nope. Breastfeeding until he was 6 months old #Nope.

#Nope #Nope #Nope and #100timesover #Nope

Sometimes I’m disappointed. That’s the truth. And on days when I feel like I’m doing everything wrong… I have to remind myself:



I just need to keep going. Make a friend. Smile.

I’m doing a good job. And so are you.

Join me. And lower that god damn bar already.

Cheers to that!




3 thoughts on “life is easier when you lower the bar.

  1. I loved this! I have to remind myself about this all the time. I especially have to remind myself that my house doesn’t have to be dinner-party-ready perfect all the time. Toys on the floor are ok! Anyway, thanks for sharing this and making me smile on a Friday.

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  2. Totally needed to read that today. I’m making the transition from exclusively pumping to formula and feeling guilty about it. I made it 7 months and my goal was 6 months so why am I being so damn hard on myself for it? Life will be so much better if I stop putting that pressure on myself.


    1. From one exclusive pumping (quit at 4 months) momma to another how the HELL did you make it to 7 months. You deserve an award! LOWER THE BAR! 7 months is AMAZING for any breastfeeding momma but especially EP mommas! Impressive! It took me about a week to not feel guilty and then I was like “this was the best decision ever” I hope you get that feeling soon!


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