Q – What do you do when you hit a wall? My husband and I have been trying for a baby for almost a year. I haven’t been diagnosed with infertility or anything, cycles are normal etc, it’s just taking a bit of time which I know can be perfectly normal. However, about 8 months in, I am hitting the frustrating wall of c’mon and almost feel like I need a break. I should mention, my husband has not “hit a wall” like me and so we continue to try. It’s sometimes just hard to have to try. Does that make sense? Scheduling sex? So romantic let me tell you! And to be clear, it’s absolutely not that I don’t want to continue trying – I want to be pregnant every day but there’s a part of me that just wants a month where I am not monitoring everything and analyzing every symptom.
I’d love any advice- usually mine just involves wine and playing with my pup but I’d love to feel like I’m not the only one on this island.
A- Let’s be honest, scheduling ANYTHING you HAVE to do is never cool. Especially intimacy. #Yuck. I have to admit, I actually never had the “opportunity” to try naturally because I don’t have a cycle… so I guess I’m one of the lucky ones that never encountered the “exhausted from scheduling sex.” However, I can relate to the fact of scheduling other ways of conceiving, like IUI and IVF. Brad wasn’t even present for any of my IUI’s. In fact, one time I had to go to the hospital to get his “sample,” stick it under my arm, drive it to the fertility clinic, wait for my IUI, and go back to work. Talk about sexy..
I can reassure you with this – nearly every couple who has been trying for a while can totally relate to your question. Perhaps they plow through it or maybe they take a long break. We hit two walls in our infertility journey and took a break each time. Breaks were always initiated by me and happily accepted by Brad. In fact, he was usually so busy he never knew what was going on until I told him “hey, I need a sample” haha so he’s easy to convince to take a break. The first break was 2 months long, after our first 3 failed IUI’s and before starting IVF #1. It was Christmas and New Years time. #Wine. Since I don’t ovulate, the pressure was 100% off for “trying.” Second break was for 5 months – before starting IVF #2. This break was mostly because it was summer and… shocker, needed summertime wine glasses filled on a patio. Badly.
With that said, let’s give this out to the masses. Shall we? Let’s see what kind of advice other people have. I would assume about 99.9% of people dealing with infertility do encounter this issue. I’m just a freak of nature. #GoFigure.
So, I extend this question to the FERTILITY GENIUSES OF THE WORLD! Or really, anyone who has hit a wall. I imagine you don’t need to be trying very long before scheduling sex becomes super annoying. So really this question is relatable to so many! So, how do you do it? When you hit a wall? Let’s help Carly out!
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